I was often dumbstruck by the blaring headlines in many chic women’s magazines that confidence is the most important virtue of a man in dating! I wracked my brain to decipher the meaning of confidence; could it mean that he should forcefully grab his love in true film style or that he should be a dare devil whose lexicon featured no word called failure?
Confidence could be a tricky word to explain mainly because there is only a hairline separating it from arrogance and pride; so the easiest way would be go in the reverse gear by attempting to define it by its antonym ie fear! Yes you heard it right! Fear in men might be indicators of poor self respect or determination. You would not believe that many men develop cold feet at the mere thought of meeting their date, except when they are in the pubs, when they give off a lofty self confidence, which will sadly subside with their beer breath!.
Confidence could make a man self assured apart from making him capable. A confident man would be calm, cool and composed with a firm grip on his fate, fortune and future, which many a women find irresistible! You cannot blame women for being extra cautious while picking up her partner as he will be in charge of her life after marriage, to guide her and to guarantee assurance and security. Confident men seldom falter in their decisions and they radiate a special feeling to everyone around them! Now don’t you think that apart from the physical looks, a good character would notch up the sex appeal of a man?
Guys who lack poise and self assurance find it difficult to strike a dialogue with his prospective mate. They tend to jump into conclusions that they are not good in dating and retrace their steps. Many a men secretly wish that their women should make the first decisive step, which again shows his abysmal confidence level.
If you thought that great looks that turn on your mate would seal the deal, you are mistaken as many a time good looking guys are not successful in getting dates. Then definitely the problem is in the confidence level, which ultimately breaks or makes a relation. Confidence is the direct offshoot of self respect and self perspective. A gorgeous man would gain enough confidence to take the initiative in asking for his lover’s hand in marriage when he starts to learn about himself and his inner strengths. Men who fall short of poise can suffer from low self confidence levels. But don’t you know that a few weeks’ fitness regimen is all it takes to develop a stunning physique that would give even pro body builders a run for their money! Remember that a proper dress sense also plays a larger than life role in making a successful and confident man. Bear in mind that dress is not just a piece of fabric to drape around; instead it’s an extension of your personality which bears your signature. Be smartly dressed to pump up your confidence quotient.
Last but not least, it is quite normal that the confidence levels go down at one point or the other in all our lives. Do not panic when you feel unsure of yourself in work or at home; as these are only passing blues. The catch phrase is to feel good for yourself so naturally someone around would feel good for you too! All the cool guys out there, all you have to do is to pull up your confidence levels to come up a winner in the game of dating!