But why your life? When you lose control of your emotions and of yourself, you\u2019re no longer in charge of\u00a0what happens or better said how it affects to you what unavoidably happens around, yes and when things go wrong you don\u2019t need to make them\u00a0any worse. Getting a strong grip on such emotions doesn\u2019t equal to repress or ignore them, that\u00a0could lead to a personal emotional collapse and bad decision-making down the road. According to a study\u00a0from the American Psychology Association, such repression can lead to increased stress, blood pressure and a loss of communication with those around you, you certainly need to avoid that, you surely have enough problems now. But how to gain control of your emotions and take the wheel of your life again? I\u2019ve gathered the expert\u2019s best tips below: 1. Know Yourself and the Origin of your Emotions If you let your emotions make the decisions of your life you\u2019re going\u00a0to be left with the consequences long after the emotion have disappeared, consider that. So you should start to take some time for introspection\u00a0and meditation when you feel bombarded with your thoughts and emotions,\u00a0try to recognize the common situations that trigger them so you can take steps to control them or avoid them as suited. Now this doesn\u2019t mean you should just suppress them since that will end up being worse for you, getting to the point of an emotional collapse is no fun for yourself or those around you, instead, accept the fact that they have appeared, that they are yours, embrace them and ask yourself what situation made you feel the way you do in that moment and if it is really that important. Take notes along the day as your emotions appear, recognize common situations or people with whom you relate those feelings. Understand that how you feel is only dependent on you and you only, no matter what you or other people think what others\u00a0have\u00a0done to you, it\u2019s entirely your responsibility. 2. Avoid Immediate Reaction You may feel anger or fear or any other sort of negative emotions as a reaction to the issue arising, but before you take any precipitate action you should stop and rethink the situation. Don\u2019t take any steps or make decisions based on the immediate impulse brought to your mind as the result of the feeling or emotion suffered because of the current circumstances, let a time to \u201ccool down\u201d and allow for emotional stabilization. Think of another perspective and different ways of confronting the problem other than the original \u201cinstinctive impulse\u201d and meditate which could be the best approach for at least 5 to 10 minutes. Of course we are not talking about life threatening situations here, you wont sit in your car while it burns in flames for ten minutes before you decide to run as fast and far as you can right? This is more about those life changing decisions you take when deciding things out of the blue like, getting mad at work\u00a0and yelling at your boss to later find yourself laid off with kids at home needing dinner tonight Not funny, or leaving your house with the kids because of a relatively unimportant dispute with your spouse that can be solved in a more appropriate way. 3. Take the Required Action when Needed Something\u00a0worse than not doing anything to confront or fix the situation that triggers your emotions so hard, is to lose control of them. After you have meditated about it and considered your options, then the only thing left is to take action,\u00a0take the wheel and get in control of your own life. Be loyal to your own values and good reason, take the best steps to ensure you won\u2019t regret the decision you take after deciding on the situation, never let pride or revenge get in the way of your own tranquility and decision-making process. Rely on the help of others if you feel you need help, go and talk with someone you trust, sometimes a different perspective makes\u00a0all the difference, besides, if you are still upset or altered by the issue, a fresh opinion could shine new light on your problem, consider the help of a professional if you feel\u00a0the situation requires it, don\u2019t be afraid or ashamed. 4. Keep a Clear Mind Keep a clear mind to\u00a0get what you want\u00a0and need, but more importantly avoid negativity, it will surely affect your decision-making process, it is easy to expect the worst case scenario when you feel angry, sad, betrayed or so in some way. Try to keep bad thoughts at bay like \u201cThis always happens to me\u201d or \u201cI\u2019m not good enough for this\u201d and the like, they wont make it any easier to keep objectivity when trying to find a solution, make positive affirmations for yourself and everything will come out more smoothly. Remember, not always the \u201ctrust your gut\u201d is the best reasoning or solution, truth is, if you are in a complicated emotional situation, this \u201cgut-feeling\u201d might very well be deluding\u00a0you. You can also help your mood and relieve\u00a0stress to be objective\u00a0by doing the things you love the most, like watching a movie, going jogging, even going to sleep, that will cool down heated emotions, letting you make\u00a0better decisions. 5. Focus on the Long Term And with this stands the taking into consideration the bigger picture, think of where you will be on the long-term with the decision you make and what are the implications for your loved ones. Will you be proud in the near and far future of the actions you take now as result of your present decisions?, Will what you do now have a positive impact in your life? or Are you acting as revenge or comeback? Important questions to answer before doing anything. Bear in mind\u00a0that all this is pretty hard to consider at the time the issue arises, but be confident you will most likely be able to understand it once the \u201cstorm\u201d of emotions has settled. Conclusion So in summary you could say you shouldn\u2019t act out of your direct emotions when you are in the middle of an issue, allow for the proper time to take action to arrive, keep yourself conscious of your feelings and the decision-making process as it develops. Don\u2019t doubt to seek for help when needed and allow for some\u00a0time to think clearly before making a life changing decision, by\u00a0the same token, do take action when it is needed, just make sure you will be proud of the decision you make\u00a0today and that it will be of benefit for your future self too.